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Divorce Conflict Resolution: Proven Strategies for a Smoother Separation
The Reality of Leaving
When I finally left my abusive and toxic marriage, after five attempts, I had no idea what divorce truly looked like. My parents had separated in the 1970s, and because it was a high-conflict divorce, I knew firsthand what it felt like as a child. However, experiencing it as an adult and a parent was a different world entirely.
At first, my ex reassured me: “I’m not going to have a divorce like my sisters, full of conflict.” I was naive enough to believe him. I thought we could have an amicable divorce, unaware that:
Truly amicable divorces account for only about 10% of cases.
The remaining 90% involve some level of conflict.
Divorce is, at its core, the negotiation and breaking of a legally binding contract.
Why “Sitting Still” Is the Smartest First Step in Divorce
As a mother of two young adults, I often find myself deeply contemplating the choices that led me to endure my toxic marriage for almost two decades. Having grown up in a high-conflict divorced family, I convinced myself that I could manage the complexities of staying in a deeply challenging relationship. I was determined not to repeat the past. I feared my children might experience the same chaos I lived through, and because of that fear, I poured endless energy into “making it work.”
How to Divide Assets in Divorce Without Losing What Matters Most
Dividing assets during divorce is never just about money or spreadsheets. It’s about grief, fairness, survival, and identity.
You're not just splitting up possessions. You're unraveling a life that once felt whole. That includes memories, traditions, routines, and comfort. Often, you're trying to stay calm and fair while navigating one of the most emotionally intense experiences of your life.
Over the years, we’ve worked with many people who reached this point overwhelmed and unsure where to begin. Without a framework, it’s easy to fall into arguments, feel paralyzed, or walk away with regrets.
That’s why we teach a simple but powerful strategy to help you approach this step with more clarity and less chaos.